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4 Qualities to Look for in Your Future Wife

When a man is looking for his future wife, he is often pulled in at least three directions: what he feels he wants, what his family feels is best, and what is truly best for him (speaking Islamically, of course).

Hopefully he can do a little legwork and plan to get these streams aligned.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser.” (Al-Bukhari)

Though emotions and hormones easily distract us all, ultimately, marriage is like a business contract.

Be sure to compile a checklist of key points before meeting any potential spouse and refer to it liberally when your vision gets cloudy.

1. Religious Commitment

There is a common belief among Muslim men that marrying a good, pious woman will help them be better Muslims.

Maybe, but in reality, only you can make yourself a better person, and technically, if you aren’t praying, you aren’t even marriageable.

Looking beyond hijab and abaya, are you on about the same level of religiosity? Do you both pray? Do you both read the Qur’an? Does she enjoy being a part of the Muslim community?

Be sure your religious commitment currently lines up with room to grow together.

2. Good Character

The emphasis on a woman’s character is strongly regarded among Muslims, as we know she is the backbone of the ummah.

She is the primary caregiver to her children, she will pass on her character traits to them. It is important to build your family with a woman of sound character.

It is also important that you appreciate her personality, as you will truly be a team in this endeavor. Get to see how she interacts with different kinds of people.

Is she consistently kind and compassionate? Does she seem honest, or does her body language convey otherwise? Listen to your gut instincts and do not ignore red flags.

3. Shared Values

Ask yourself, “What are your life goals, and how will you achieve them? Do you plan to spend a lot of time with your children, or is acquiring wealth more important to you?”

Consider how your spouse may help you achieve your goals.

When you meet with prospective partners, ask them about their life goals and lifestyle needs. Will she want to travel, entertain company frequently, or not much at all?

Will she always want to work? Will you be able to help her achieve her goals? Get to know each other.

4. Attraction

This must be a difficult point for most brothers. It’s important to be realistic.

Recognize that, firstly, you are not entitled to perfection, and secondly, attraction doesn’t occur purely based on physical looks; you must like your wife as well as find her physically attractive.

In addition to having a checklist to keep you on track, also have an accountability buddy—a family member or good confidant who knows you well and can act as a sound board to reflect back to you when you are being realistic versus when you are being rash.

The article is from the archives.

Read also:

5 Qualities to Look for in Your Future Husband

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