Arizona Univ. Showcases Muslim Contributions, Accomplishments in US

An American university has launched a new center to highlight American Muslim experience and contributions to the society as well as to build belonging for Muslim students in campus.

Launched this week, the Arizona State University’s Center of Muslim Experience (CME-US) aims to advance research and deepen public knowledge on the understudied history of Muslims in the US and their many contributions to American society and culture.

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​​“In creating the vision of CME-US, we were inspired by ASU’s mission of being ‘measured not by whom we exclude, but rather by whom we include and how they succeed’,” Chad Haines, associate professor of religious studies at the School of Historical, Philosophical and Religious Studies and co-director of CME-US, said in a statement.

“These values connect with Islamic ethics of acceptance and working for the social good that is evident in Muslim American communities and their experiences, providing CME-US a unique opportunity to bridge diverse worlds and advance ASU’s mission.”

The university, which boasts a total enrollment of more than 70,000, is also home to more than 8,000 Muslim students, faculty and staff.

“The Muslim contribution to world history and culture would be difficult to overstate – and the Muslim experience in the United States has helped to shape the nation,” says Jeffrey Cohen, dean of humanities.

“ASU has a population of over 8,000 Muslim faculty, staff and students. They deserve to have their stories, histories and rich cultures valued and shared.”

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Muslim Contributions

The center will also highlight the diversity and creativity of Muslim Americans and their contributions to American culture by hosting a variety of events including poetry readings and musical performances.

“By creating a space for students to share their own stories, both Muslim and non-Muslim students will benefit from knowing one another and learning to appreciate that socio-cultural differences can benefit improved community-building locally,” Haines added.

The ASU’s new center would build on a few different educational initiatives across the country that are aimed at sharing the story of America’s Muslim populations.

One of the most prominent such centers is the Islamic Heritage Museum in Washington DC which explores Islamic history dating all the way back to the 16th century.

The exact population of Arizona’s Muslim community is unclear, and various reports from local news outlets have pinned the number at anywhere from 50,000 to 120,000.

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#VisitMyMosque: Hundreds of UK Mosques to Open Doors for Neighbors

After two years of COVID restrictions, more than 250 mosques across the UK are finally opening their doors to visitors this weekend, inviting people to a tour and helping them understand their faith.

The national initiative will see mosques opening doors and welcoming people of all faiths on September 3-4.

“Visit My Mosque day is a national initiative facilitated by the Muslim Council of Britain encouraging 250+ mosques across the UK to hold open days to welcome in their neighbors from all faiths and none and build bridges across communities,” the Muslim Council of Britain wrote in a statement.

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“Whilst mosque open days in Britain have been taking place for decades, Visit My Mosque enables mosques to be a part of a nationwide event where mosques across England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland are able to open their door together on the same day.”

The annual Visit My Mosque Day event went virtually over the past two years due to COVID-19 pandemic.

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Mosques in the UK have been holding open days for their local communities for decades.

At the national initiative, #VisitMyMosque was first conceived in February 2015 with about 20 mosques taking part.

Held under the auspices of Muslim Council of Britain (MCB), the initiative grew to over 250 mosques last year. Now, MPs and other senior politicians take parts too, including the PM, Leader of the Opposition, and the Mayor of London.

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What Does It Mean to Love for Sake Of Allah?


Love is among the most glorious of human feelings. Imagine if it is love for sake of Allah.

Many hadiths speak about the dignified status of those whom Allah blesses to possess such love.

But what does it mean to love for sake of Allah?

In this short video, Sheikh Ammar AlShukry highlights the meaning and fruits of such a selfless love.

When love revolves around Allah and forms the basis for our relationships, many problems can be overcome.

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10 Romantic Sunnahs from Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)

Who doesn’t like talking about love? It’s one of the most popular topics among youth.

We like to read love stories and watch romantic movies.

We get amazed by how the lover treats his beloved and how deeply the couple loves each other.

Sometimes, these stories are unrealistic, sometimes exaggerated…

However, if we examine the life of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), we’d find it full of instances that we, most of the time, forget to look at and hardly follow.

We know how much he was respectful towards women, and he usually ordered the companions to treat women with respect and kindness. He led by example when he said:

“The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Ibn Majah) 

So, let’s look at how Prophet Muhammad showed his wives love and tender care?

Here are some tips from the Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace be upon him):

1- Express Your Love in Different Ways

His love for Aisha was immense. In one narration, Aisha said:

“The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally and said: O Allah, this is my division concerning what I control, so do not blame me concerning what You control and I do not.” (Abu Dawud)



One day, the Prophet’s companion, Amr ibn Al-As, said: “I came to the Prophet and said, “Which people do you love most?”

He replied, “Aisha“. I said, “From amongst the men?” He replied, “Her father, (Abu Bakr).”

Aisha said:

“The Messenger of Allah used to put his mouth on the place where I had drunk from, and he would drink from what was leftover by me, while I was menstruating.” (An-Nasa’i)

2- Feed Her

How easy it is for Muslims to gain rewards ! Just by smiling at your wife or putting a morsel in her mouth, you get a reward. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.”(Al Bukhari)

3- Play with Her

How many times do you invite your spouse to go trekking or play a game? Imagine, being the leader who used to have plenty of responsibilities, but he could still find time to share a game with his wife.

‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated:

“The Prophet raced with me and I beat him.” (Ibn Majah)

4- Clean up for Her

What’s the first thing you do when you have an important meeting? Tidying up, using your favorite perfume… why not try these when you come home?

Shuraih bin Hani (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I asked ‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her): “What was the first thing which the Prophet would do when he entered his house?

She replied, “He would use Miswak (tooth-stick).” (Muslim)

5- Lean on Her Lap

Romantic lovers like to lean on each other’s shoulders or lap. Doing this brings a state of calmness and contentment.

Prophet Muhammad used to put his head on Aisha’s lap and recite the Qur’an.

Narrated by Aisha:

“The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to lean on my lap and recite Quran while I was in menses.” (Al-Bukhari)

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How to Interpret the Quran?

“Let me show you”, she said.

She stood at my front door smiling. I smiled back and inquired, “How is that possible?”

She turned the pages with confidence, holding the book with one hand. Her friend, standing next to her, looked on as if she was about to pull a rabbit out of the book.

In slow motion, she moved her index finger across the page and said, “You see. Here it is.” Her friend’s smile got wider.

“What? What is it?” I inquired.

She said, “You see. You do believe in the trinity. Right here, in the Quran, God refers to Himself as ‘We’.”

Precise and Unspecific Verses

The Quran, although claiming to be clear, recognizes that its clarity does not preclude it from being misinterpreted. It is a fact that its clarity is divinely authored and delivered, but its interpretation still relies on human endeavor.

The Quran presents the reader with two kinds of verses: precise and unspecific. Precise verses are definitive; they do not leave room for other possible meanings. Some precise verses are: “God is one” or “There is no compulsion in religion”.

Next, the unspecific verses, by their nature, allow for multiple interpretations. The verse, “And We caused Jesus, son of Mary, to follow in their footsteps”, does not explain, at the outset, what “We” means.

Does “We” indicate that God is more than one? Is God a trinity? Or is the “We”, perhaps, a royal “We”— a term that does not indicate plurality, but majesty instead? Which is the correct interpretation?

The Quran prescribes a method of interpretation that eliminates a-needle-in-a-haystack hunt for the intended interpretation. The method tells us to let precise verses pinpoint the intended meaning of the unspecific verses.

Assigning this crucial role to the precise verses, the Quran calls them, “the foundation of the Book”.

{It is He who has sent down to you, [O Muhammad], the Book; in it are verses that are precise – they are the foundation of the Book – and others unspecific.} (3:7)

What does “We” mean in the Quran when used by God? The precise verses pinpoint the intended meaning:

{God is one.} (37:4)

{Do not say trinity.} (4:171)

The “We”, therefore, can only mean the royal “We”, and not that God is a plurality or a trinity.

Misinterpretation comes about through neglecting the Quran’s prescribed method of interpretation. Biases often influence the sidestepping of this method, resulting in unsanctioned interpretations of the unspecific.

“As far as those in whose hearts is a deviation, they will follow that of it which is unspecific, seeking discord and seeking an interpretation suitable to them.”

The censure against following unspecific verses does not suggest ignoring their meanings. Making an effort to understand their meanings by referring them to the precise verses is commendable.

The censure, however, is for the eeny meeny miney moe interpretation: “seeking discord and seeking an interpretation suitable to them”.

It is not possible to arrive at the correct interpretation every time. After all, figuring out the correct interpretation relies on human endeavor, and as humans, we are susceptible to error.

As a result, Islam recognizes that error is probable, and is tolerant of it. “He will have one reward”, said the Prophet Muhammad for a scholar that arrives at an incorrect ruling. The scholar does not receive the reward for erring, but rather for his efforts, and as an incentive to keep trying.

After speaking about the precise and unspecific verses, the Quran encourages objectivity, a necessary quality for interpretation, through prayer:

{Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate after You have guided us and grant us from Yourself mercy. Indeed, You are the Bestower.} (3:8)

Keep the History

The Quran was not revealed in one shot. It was revealed over a span of 23 years, much of it around events. By its nature, the Quran is fused with documented history. Interpreting an event-related verse without its historical reference will make the interpretation go adrift.

An eclectic collection of history offers rich information about event-related verses. The Hadith includes statements by the Prophet Muhammad, the Reasons of Revelation (asbab-un-nuzul) give background, The Prophet’s Biography (Seerah) illustrates an account of events, Poetry delivers details about a certain era or circumstance, and works of historians tie them all together.

Interpreting the verse:

{Do not approach prayer while you are intoxicated}, in a vacuum yields an interpretation permitting the drinking of alcohol if not imbibed before prayer— a misinterpretation.

However, if the verse connects with its historical references, in this case, either with the Hadith or Reasons of Revelation, a completely different interpretation arises— God revealed the prohibition of alcohol in stages, the final stage came with an unequivocal and full prohibition:

{O you who have believed, indeed, intoxicants, gambling, sacrificing on stone alters (to other than Allah), and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of Satan, so avoid it that you may be successful. Satan only wants to cause between you animosity and hatred through intoxicants and gambling and to avert you from the remembrance of Allah and from prayer. So will you not desist?} (Quran 5: 90-91)

The prohibition was now for all times as the Prophet clarified:

“A person is not a believer while he drinks khamr (any substance that intoxicates the mind).” (Al-Bukhari)

Reference to People

“The Chinese constitute a fifth of the world’s population” is a statement that includes all Chinese people. “The Chinese like noodles” is a statement that generalizes their taste.

However, the statement “The Chinese scored higher on math exams than the British at the International School of Wiz” does not generalize all the Chinese or British in the world. If we leave out some of the sentence details and just say, “The Chinese scored higher” it still does not generalize the Chinese. If the results were the same year after year, the statement could evolve to say, “The Chinese score high.” Yet, it still would not generalize all the Chinese. Why?

These statements are all referring to a specific incident, unlike the statement providing facts about the Chinese population.

When Paul Revere alerted the colonial militia by saying, “The British are coming”, he didn’t mean all of Britain had arrived at the shores of the east coast. He meant the British forces on the ground in Massachusetts.

As humans, we tend to generalize because it’s easier than analyzing facts and statistics. Hasty generalization is a fallacy that occurs when the mind draws a conclusion from a small number of instances.

{Those who disbelieve have claimed that they will never be resurrected.} (Quran 64:7)

To allege that the verse claims all non-Muslims disbelieve in the resurrection, in essence, would be a hasty generalization. The verse is actually part of a larger dialogue between the Prophet Muhammad and the pagan Arabs.

{Fight those who do not believe in Allah or in the Last Day} (Quran 9:29) was revealed in response to the Romans’ aggressions against the young community of Madinah. To claim that the verse calls for fighting any and all non-Muslims indiscriminately would be a sweeping generalization that does not represent the facts, but does reveal possible biases of the claimant.

It is clear then, that the Quran challenges us to deal with our biases so we can arrive at the correct interpretation. The Quran warns those who approach it without objectivity, who give in to biases, who throw their hands in the air upon encountering a hurdle in seeking its interpretation:

{And We send down of the Quran that which is healing and mercy for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in loss.} (17:82)

(From Discovering Islam archive)

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Show Mercy to People

Mercy is love that seeks to forgive, and care for others in time of need. Mercy is an act of love done without expecting anything in return. When we show mercy to people, Allah in return shows us mercy too.

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Soyez Fier D’être Musulman

Se sentir fier d’être musulman, se distinguer en public comme soi et se débarrasser de tout complexe d’infériorité, comment ?!

Imam Ismaïl Mounir vous propose 10 astuces, à savoir : garder le sourire, respecter le voisin, tenir à la parole donnée, être honnête, agir avec douceur, bien travailler, s’embellir de patience, rester scrupuleux et dire le bien sinon garder le silence, et ce pour rendre votre Islam visible sur l’espace public. Vu que c’est par son éthique et son bon comportement que le musulman doit se faire remarquer.

1. Soyez Souriant

A vrai dire, le sourire, spontané ou volontaire, existe dans toutes les cultures. Il est universel. Ainsi, le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam), malgré ses lourdes responsabilités et ses nombreuses épreuves, était un homme de mine bien souriante. Il nous a enjoints de garder toujours le sourire, précisant que c’est une forme d’aumône. En cultivant tous cette sunna prophétique, on finira par être identifié comme la communauté du sourire !

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit : « Ne néglige aucune œuvre de bien, pas même le fait de rencontrer ton frère avec un visage radieux. » (Mouslim & Tirmidhî].

2. Soyez Respectueux Du Voisinage

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit que l’ange Gabriel (`Alayhi As-Sallâm) ne cessait de lui recommander le voisin au point qu’il avait cru qu’il allait finir par lui assigner une part à l’héritage. En général, l’islam nous exhorte d’être tellement attentionnés envers le voisin, sans faire aucune distinction entre un voisin musulman et un autre qui ne l’est pas.

Mais, comment y arriver et prendre bon soin de ses voisins ? Il s’agit d’abord, d’arrêter toute nuisance à leur égard, de leur être utile par tout moyen, de les saluer chaleureusement, d’établir surtout des relations pacifiées et harmonieuses avec eux. Dans son Livre Saint, Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla) dit à propos du voisin : « Adorez Allah et ne Lui donnez aucun associé. Agissez avec bonté envers (vos) père et mère, les proches, les orphelins, les pauvres, le proche voisin, le voisin lointain, le collègue et le voyageur, et les esclaves en votre possession, car Allah n’aime pas, en vérité, le présomptueux, l’arrogant » (Coran 4 : 36)

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit :
« N’est pas Croyant celui qui passe la nuit le ventre plein alors que son voisin, à côté de lui, a le ventre vide. » (Tabarânî et Abou Ya`la)
« Celui qui croit en Allah et au Jour du Jugement dernier se doit d’honorer son voisin. » (Boukhârî & Mouslim)
« N’entrera pas au paradis celui dont le voisin n’est pas à l’abri de la conduite blessante. » (Mouslim)

3. Respectez La Parole Donnée

En Islam, le fait d’honorer la parole donnée fait partie du bon comportement du musulman. De plus, cet acte est surtout très bien vu, et même jugé chevaleresque dans la culture française. Il fait partie des implications de la foi islamique, puisqu’nous serons interrogés et jugés le Jour Dernier sur le respect de ses engagements. A ce titre, Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla) dit : « Ô les croyants ! Remplissez fidèlement vos engagements » (Coran 5 : 1).

4. Soyez Honnête

Citons, à cet égard, le récit d’un patron à la tête d’une société française, qui embauchait beaucoup de musulmans avec des longues barbes et des tenues purement islamiques. Interrogé sur ce fait, il a expliqué que depuis leur embauche, les vols qui étaient très fréquents, avaient tellement baissés.

L’honnêteté est donc exigée dans tous les aspects de la vie du musulman. Imaginez si tout le monde reconnait les musulmans à cette vertu de l’honnêteté. Pourtant, malheureusement, ce n’est pas toujours le cas aujourd’hui, bien que notre religion accorde une grande importance à l’honnêteté.

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit:
« Le musulman est celui qui ne porte pas atteinte aux musulmans avec sa langue et sa main. Et le croyant est celui auquel les gens font confiance à l’égard de leurs personnes et leurs biens. » (Boukhârî et Mouslim)

5. Soyez Doux

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit : « Lorsqu’une chose est ornée de douceur, elle l’embellit, et lorsqu’elle en manque, elle l’enlaidit. » (Mouslim) Il (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit également : « Allah est doux et Il aime la douceur. Il donne pour la douceur ce qu’il ne donne pas pour la violence ni pour aucune autre qualité ». (Mouslim)
Le musulman, suivant cette sunna prophétique, doit être continuellement en quête de la douceur en toute chose, entre autres, dans la manière de : s’exprimer, de réagir avec autrui, de faire passer ses messages, de se comporter et de vivre en général.

Le Prophète (Salah Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla) Alayhi Wa Sallam), lui-même, était l’étalon de la douceur. Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla) dit du bon caractère du Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) et de sa douce manière exemplaire d’échanger avec les gens : « C’est par quelque miséricorde de la part d’Allah que tu (Muhammad) as été si doux envers eux! Mais si tu étais rude, au coeur dur, ils se seraient enfuis de ton entourage. » (Coran 3 : 159).

6. Soyez Travailleur

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) de l’islam enjoignait à tout musulman de gagner sa subsistance à la sueur de son front. Et le mérite du travail est apprécié et connu de tous les humains en tout temps et en tout lieu. Le musulman doit toujours se montrer énergétique et passionné de son travail. Même, au cours du jeûne de Ramadan, le musulman continue à travailler, tout en restant ponctuel et en assumant ses diverses charges et tâches patiemment.

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam)  a dit : « La meilleure nourriture est celle que l’on acquiert au moyen du travail de sa main. Le Prophète Dâwoud (David) (Alayhi As-Sallâm) vivait du produit de sa main. » (Boukhârî)

7. Soyez Patient

En fait, la patience est presque inhérente à toutes les choses de la vie. Les musulmans surtout, doivent à tout moment et en toute circonstance, faire preuve d’une belle patience et d’une endurance inébranlable, en ayant à l’esprit la fin heureuse qui attend les endurants de la part d’Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla). C’est une patience sereine et procureuse de récompense dans l’au-delà et d’appréciation dans l’ici-bas.

Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla) dit:
« Certes, Allah nous a favorisés. Quiconque craint et patiente… Et très certainement, Allah ne fait pas perdre la récompense des bienfaisants. » (Coran 12 :90)

8. Soyez Scrupuleux

Faire attention à être juste, à ne pas nuire à l’honneur ou à la réputation d’autrui, être vigilant de la manière dont on gagne notre argent et de la manière dont on le dépense. J’ai un jour vu un homme musulman âgé qui portait une barbe et une chéchia, se rendre à un Pôle emploi pour annoncer une somme perçue en trop. Certes, il a suscité la surprise de tout le monde là-bas ! Mais, puisqu’il était scrupuleux, il n’acceptait pas de garder cette somme d’argent qui ne lui revenait pas de droit.

Le Prophète (Salah Allah `Alayhi Wa Sallam)  a dit :

« Je vous ordonne d’être véridiques en tout temps, car cela mène à la vertu, et la vertu mène au Paradis. L’homme qui est toujours véridique et qui s’efforce sans cesse de l’être finit par être inscrit comme véridique auprès de Dieu. » (Mouslim)

9. Dites Le Bien

Tel est l’injonction qui nous est faite par le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam). Cherchez donc à ne dire que le bien et propagez des belles paroles. Soyez fier d’être musulman et abstenez-vous de parler de ce que vous ne maitrisez pas, de ce que vous ne connaissez pas à fond ou dont vous n’êtes pas sûr. Les musulmans ne diffusent que des informations sûres, véridiques, bénéfiques et utiles.

Le Prophète (Salah Allah Alayhi Wa Sallam) a dit:
« Celui qui croit en Allah et au jour dernier, qu’il dise du bien ou qu’il se taise. Celui qui croit en Allah et au jour dernier, qu’il honore son voisin. Et celui qui croit en Allah et au jour dernier, qu’il honore son invité. » (Boukhârî & Mouslim)

10. Soyez Pacificateur

Le musulman est porteur de paix et cherche à la répandre partout. Partout, il commence à adresser autrui par dire : « Que la paix soit sur vous ! » Mais, cette paix doit commencer de chez soi et de son for intérieur, avant de la cultiver et la répandre dans votre entourage.

Allah (Soubhanahou Wa Ta`âla) dit :
« Et on fera entrer ceux qui croient et font de bonnes oeuvres, dans les jardins sous lesquels coulent les ruisseaux, pour y demeurer éternellement, par permission de leur Seigneur. Et là, leur salutation sera: “Salam” (Paix). » (Coran 14 :23)

Etes-Vous Fier D’être Musulman ?

Ces 10 astuces, mes frères et sœurs, pouvaient vous rendre visibles en tout temps et en tout lieu, vous faire distinguer au sein de la société et vous rendre fiers d’être musulmans.

A regarder cette vidéo intitulée Musulman discret en complément de celle-ci.

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Shaping the Future Through Faith and Vision

This is a hugely inspiring speech by Sheikh Omar Suleiman, which we can all learn from. How can we move forward and shape the future through faith and vision? Through the love of Allah and not our own egos. We can also learn from the vision of Prophet Ibrahim (PBUH) and Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

 

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Muslim Youth & Campus Life Challenges

Whether you are living in dorms or staying at home while going to campus, college presents a new set of challenges for Muslim youth.

This type of environment has a lot of dating, casual sex, drugs/alcohol, and challenges to Islamic rules of interaction for genders.

It doesn’t mean this environment is always a struggle and it doesn’t mean you can’t attend college.

Like any struggle in life, it is better to prepare yourself mentally and be ready for what will likely cross your path.

To begin with, always make dua and ask Allah (the most revered, most honored) for guidance and help on this path. Pray istikhara often and turn to your Quran for answers.

Integration vs. Isolation

It is completely natural to seek acceptance and a sense of belonging. In our hierarchy of psychological needs to attain happiness, feeling secure and accepted is part of that base.

However, it is important to remember that you don’t have to follow every move someone else does in order to connect with them and build friendships.

Just as Muslims and non-Muslims are often friends, and we don’t expect our non-Muslim friends to fast Ramadan with us, you should not be expected to follow the crowd as your only means of integrating.

It is very possible to integrate into campus culture and be a role model of ethics while abstaining from haram activities.

Some go to the extreme right and begin isolating themselves as if the only way to handle struggle is to pretend it doesn’t exist. That won’t work and can actually lead to depression and lower your confidence.

Repeated isolation is not healthy; human beings are social creatures with social needs.

This doesn’t mean you have to attend every event on campus or join clubs that don’t align with the Islamic belief system, but find ways to integrate into your campus culture without sacrificing your own beliefs.

“And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah ]”[Quran 2:45]

Gender Interaction

Did men and women interact during the time of the first generations of Muslims? The answer to that is yes, HOWEVER, it was done in a safe and ethical manner.

I need to highlight safety here because all too often our youth tend to forget that Islamic rules serve a purpose and gender interaction guidelines strongly protect women.

According to this study, almost one in four undergraduate women experienced sexual assault or misconduct at 33 of the nation’s major universities in the US. 90% of campus sexual harassment goes unreported.

Do you still want to be alone with that guy in biology class? Because most assaults are carried out by people the victim knows.

It is not haram to interact with the other gender, but we have to follow guidelines.

Learning a New Lingo – A Convert’s Funny Stories

When you join a new field – studies, work, religion, even some social clubs – you have to learn a whole new lingo before you can understand what your colleagues are talking about.

All of us converts face this, and the problem is sometimes aggravated by poor translations that don’t really say what the translators think they say.

Prayer

I can think of several amusing misunderstandings in my early months as a Muslim (many years ago!). I first learned to perform salah (ritual prayer) from a book. The instructions said that I should not let a stranger walk in front of me while praying and I took that very literally.

I was then a graduate teaching assistant and shared an office with four other students. When it was time to pray, I would spread a prayer rug between our desks and pray. There was only a small area where I could face the qiblah, and it did not leave any space for someone to walk around or behind me.

My colleague John would often leave his desk at that time and go get something, which required him to cross directly in front of me. But he was no stranger! I knew him, so I never stopped him. It was only months later that I realized the book had meant to say not to let someone who is not a mahram (a close relative forbidden in marriage) pass in front of me.

Menstruating Women and Prayer

Another mistranslation was that a menstruating woman “does not have to pray.” I understood that to mean prayer is optional at that time if I want to. Fortunately, I asked about that one right away and had the notion corrected.

Iftar in Ramadan

I was sharing an apartment with five Malaysian students when my first Ramadan came. We all ate sahur (pre-dawn meal) and iftar (meal at sunset to break the fast) together.

One day my roommates told me that they had invited a large number of Malaysian students to have breakfast with us the next day. My jaw dropped at that! “You’re having guests at three o’clock in the morning?” They explained that break-fast was at sunset.

“No, no! Breakfast is in the morning. Just call it iftar so I know what you mean!” I told them.

Sometimes it really is easier to just learn the Arabic word and use it. A few years later I saw a book — originating in Pakistan, I think — about how to pray. It said that when rising from prostration, one should “stand on the hands.”

But I was wiser then and knew that you don’t need to be a gymnast to pray.

(From Discovering Islam’s archive)

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7 Conseils Pour Sortir Du Célibat!

Les imams ne font rien pour les célibataires! Mais, ce n’est pas vrai; car maintes initiatives sont déjà entreprises.

Dans cette vidéo, Pr. Ismaïl Mounir commence par identifier quatre types de célibataires. Ensuite, il nous propose sept conseils pour sortir du célibat et mener à bien un projet de mariage.

Quel Type De Célibataire Etes-Vous?

En fait, il y a quatre types de célibataires. Cette catégorisation pertinente est, en fait, tirée du livre de thérapeute de couples et de familles, Ali Habibbi, intitulé « Le Célibat: Liberté & Souffrance ».

1er type: Qui Choisit Le Célibat

C’est la personne qui choisit le célibat sans en souffrir aucunement, comme les  jeunes gens de 20-23 ans préoccupés par leurs études. Ils ne sentent pas encore le besoin de se marier, tout en envisageant d’entreprendre ce pas vers la fin de leurs études.

2ème Type: Qui Désire Le Mariage Sans En Etre Capable

C’est la personne qui aimerait à se marier sans en être capable, en tellement souffrir du célibat. Ce sont les jeunes ayant atteint la trentaine ou plus, mais qui vivent encore chez leurs parents. Ils n’osent jamais même leur parlé de ce désir. Ils sont souvent timides, n’osent pas aller vers l’autre et manquent de confiance en eux-mêmes. On trouve également dans certaines cultures et sociétés, l’envie de garder les enfants chez eux et notamment les filles qui, ayant passé le cap de la trentaine sans jamais connaitre un homme, aimeraient bien pourtant se lier en mariage.

3ème Type: Qui Prétend Choisir Le Célibat

Ce sont les hommes et les femmes qui ont connu le divorce et qui ont des enfants. Traumatisés par ce drame, ils ont peur de se projeter à nouveau dans le mariage. Cette peur est tellement grande au point qu’ils jugent beaucoup plus confortable de se laisser aller au célibat à vie. En dépit de cette nouvelle liberté dont ils se réjouissent; au fond d’eux-mêmes, la plénitude n’est jamais atteinte et il reste quand même un certain manque perpétuel.

4ème Type: Qui Sabote Ses Projets de Mariage

C’est la personne qui prétend vouloir se marier, mais qui trouve une excuse pour saboter son projet de mariage à chaque fois, par peur de l’engagement. On voit maintes personnes qui multiplient les rencontres, trouvent maintes opportunités de mariage et avancent toujours des excuses pour les faire saboter; et parfois même à la dernière minute! Tel est le cas de certains jeunes qui, même si leur code culturel et leur religion les poussent à se marier, craignent tellement pour leur et leur indépendance, etc.

Donc, cherchez à identifier à quelle catégorie de célibataires vous vous trouvez!

Eclairage Religieux Sur Le Célibat

Religieusement parlant, le mariage est fortement recommandé ; alors qu’une minorité de savants le trouve obligatoire. Mais, les savants s’accordent à dire que si une personne célibataire souffre de sa condition, tout en ayant la capacité de se marier, par crainte de tomber dans le péché, il lui sera donc obligatoire de tout mettre en œuvre pour le faire.

Comment Sortir Du Célibat?

  • D’abord, un mariage réussi unit deux partenaires qui contribuent ensemble à construire leur vie au quotidien. Sortez donc des visions hollywoodiennes, selon lesquelles, il suffit de choisir un partenaire pour voir tout roulé comme sur des roulettes! Le mariage est, en fait, un projet sérieux qui demande tant d’investissements. Les deux partenaires doivent apprendre à construire une relation de qualité. Cela ne se fait pas du jour au lendemain, et demande cependant beaucoup de recul et d’efforts.
  • Aussi, plus vous allez vous connaitre, et plus vous arriverez à choisir la personne qui vous convient. Il arrive que les gens souhaitant se marier, sans d’abord se connaitre elles-mêmes comme il se doit. Il existe pourtant des outils à se faire comme les tests de personnalité, etc. Connaissez donc mieux vous-même et identifiez clairement vos propres besoins pour être heureux en couple.
  • Surtout, arrêtez de rechercher l’âme sœur et de penser qu’il n’y a qu’une personne unique qui vous convient le mieux. C’est à nouveau une vision hollywoodienne des choses. Pour trouver un bon partenaire, il faut faire un choix cohérent de la personne avec qui partager un projet de vie commun. Dans ce choix, les critères physiques existent mais il y en a aussi d’autres intellectuels, socio-culturels, etc.
  • Ayez une vision claire de ce qu’est le mariage en islam. Beaucoup de jeunes mariés réclament maints droits à leurs partenaires, en oubliant qu’il fallait d’abord commencer par assumer ses devoirs. N’oublions pas que ce mariage se base sur une relation amoureuse qu’il faut en prendre soin et pas seulement un contrat!
  • Sachez que tout ce qui se passe avant le mariage, c’est de la séduction. La règle dit que la séduction tient de la manipulation. Après le mariage, on découvrira la personne dans toute sa complexité.
  • Faites les causes pour multiplier les opportunités de rencontres, à travers des sites de rencontre sur internet, des agences matrimoniales musulmanes. Il est possible également de s’intégrer dans des associations musulmanes qui vous permettent de rencontrer des célibataires musulmans. Parlez à votre entourage, à vos amis, à la famille, etc. Bref, mettez tout en œuvre pour pouvoir augmenter les opportunités de votre côté..
  • Enfin, multipliez les invocations sincères en demandant à Allah de vous permettre de réaliser un projet de mariage réussi. Placez votre confiance en Lui et surtout ne vous laisser pas aller au désespoir.

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Barakah – First Woman to Physically Touch the Prophet (SAW)

Barakah was the first woman to ever physically touch Prophet Muhammad (SAW) during the time of his birth. She was the first woman to ever declare such good words on the Prophet (SAW). She lived a life of selflessness, that even at the time the Prophet’s mother (Amina) was dying, she entrusted the Prophet (SAW) to her care, to be his mother when he was just six years of age.

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Stand Up to Bullying – Very Powerful

It is a fact that our children face bullying at school, as well as Islamophobia. We have to stand up to bullying and get the schools to stop this kind of behaviour.

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When Muslims Pull Fellow Muslims Away from Religion

Maya was a convert to Islam.  It had taken her a great deal of courage to start wearing a modest Islamic wardrobe, including a headscarf.

She was the only one in her family and circle of friends who dressed that way.

It made her feel like an outsider almost everywhere she went.

It had felt awkward to show up to work with a headscarf and to answer the questions of dozens of co-workers and clients.

And nowadays, strangers on the street — who had always ignored her before — frequently stared at her with hostility or made rude comments.

Nevertheless, Maya persevered.  She truly wanted to please her Creator and was convinced that hijab was a necessary part of her deen.

She came to accept that most non-Muslims would not understand or support her, but she was counting on the encouragement and guidance of her new Muslim sisters.

Maya was shocked, therefore, when it was two Muslim sisters who managed to shake her confidence more than anyone else.

She had removed her hijab at a ladies-only event, and the following conversation ensued:

Maya, you look so much younger without your hijab!” exclaimed one Muslim sister.

Yes, you look beautiful!” added another. “It’s a shame you hide all that thick, wavy hair under a scarf!”

The baggy clothes you wear make you look at least ten years older,” asserted the first sister, in a confiding whisper.

You’re still young…and you hope to get married someday, right?

Something a little more form-fitting would be much more flattering,” advised the second.  “And perhaps a bit of makeup to brighten your features.”

Maya could hardly believe what she was hearing.  Here was a born-Muslim woman who knew and understood Islamic rules, and yet they were encouraging her to dress less modestly?!

It was not enough that they chose not to cover themselves, but clearly they were also on a crusade to convert other sisters to their opinion.  Maya had never expected that.

Although she was not very vain, Maya could feel her self-confidence evaporating after that encounter.

Her goal had been to dress like a believer, not an unattractive old maid! She began to question how she looked and what she wore more than ever before since her conversion.

Days after that ladies-only event, she found herself scrutinizing her wardrobe and looking critically in the mirror, seeing a tired old woman instead of a young, fervent believer.

How would she ever find a husband if she looked dowdy? She began to resent her loose clothing and to lament the “imprisonment” of her beautiful hair and the plainness of her unadorned face.

You Cannot Hide Your Sins From Allah

You cannot hide your sins from Allah, for He knows what we do, and He takes a record of everything you do in life. Because of every sin that we commit, we shall be held accountable for it.

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Entre la ansiedad y la confianza en Allah

La confianza en Allah es lo que nos mantiene estables y puede ayudarnos a enfrentarnos a la ansiedad.

La mayoría de nosotros tenemos una rutina. Nos despertamos a una hora determinada, nos cepillamos los dientes, hacemos el mismo trabajo, comemos los mismos alimentos, etc. Pero la vida está llena de incertidumbres. La vida misma es incierta. Y de vez en cuando la falsa sensación de certeza que nos da nuestra rutina se retira y experimentamos la incierta realidad de la vida.

Esta incertidumbre de la vida ha sido un factor definitorio de mi vida últimamente. Desde que me mudé de mi casa, y mientras mi esposo y yo buscamos los medios para construir una nueva vida, hemos estado en constante cambio. Nuestra vida juntos ha sido una serie de empaquetar, desempaquetar, volver a empaquetar, mudarse, desempaquetar y repetirlo otra vez.

Amarrarse a Allah

Todo esto puede sonar como una bonita aventura para quienes se sienten atrapados en una rutina o para aquellos a quienes simplemente les gusta estar en movimiento. Pero para mí, que sufro una ansiedad bastante grave desde una edad temprana, la incertidumbre es como un veneno. La estabilidad y la rutina son un mecanismo de afrontamiento al que se aferran muchas personas con ansiedad.

Y cuando las ilusiones de estabilidad y certeza se retiran de mi vida, se provoca una reacción extrema. Mi cerebro se pone a funcionar a toda velocidad y envía señales de que estoy en constante peligro de muerte. Es un sentimiento y un estado de angustia que solo aquellos que realmente lo han experimentado pueden comprender. Es una sensación de terror como que te estás extraviando hacia el espacio sin saber si puedes regresar a tierra firme.

Sin embargo, desde hace quince años desde que me convertí al Islam, he hecho del Islam mi base segura. No importa dónde esté, hago la oración en ciertos momentos. No importa quién me rodee, sé que tengo hermanos y hermanas en la creencia que conocen mi corazón. No importa qué oscilación esté sucediendo, sé que en el Islam tengo certeza y estabilidad. Para sentir que puedo y recorreré mi camino de regreso a tierra firme, me he amarrado a mi creencia en Allah (SWT).

Esto es parte del regalo del Islam que Allah (SWT) le ha dado a la humanidad porque, incluso para las personas que no sufren problemas de salud mental, estas certezas brindan consuelo. Y para aquellos de nosotros con ansiedad, depresión, trastorno bipolar o trastorno límite de la personalidad, esta estabilidad es mucho más significativa.

El plan perfecto de Allah

Pero últimamente, incluso estos puntos de anclaje estables no han sido suficientes para contrarrestar la intensa ansiedad que ha crecido en mi mente. Todo en mi mundo está en agitación. Nada es seguro, nada se puede planificar, e incluso los planes más simples cambian cien veces.

Esto me llevó a un momento en el que sentí que no podía aguantar mucho más. Le pedí a Allah (SWT) desesperada que me mostrara lo que necesitaba aprender, cómo necesitaba cambiar. Necesitaba saber hacia dónde me estaba guiando o de qué me estaba alejando Allah para poder sentirme mejor, estable.

Después de pedirle a Allah que me guiara, todo lo que podía pensar era en Su plan. La realidad no es que la vida sea incierta. La realidad es que simplemente no sabemos qué es cierto. Con Allah está la certeza.

El Profeta Muhammad (la paz sea con él) dijo:

Allah escribió los decretos de la creación cincuenta mil años antes de que creara los cielos y la tierra.

Sahih Muslim

Y Allah Todopoderoso nos pide que confiemos en Su plan. Él nos dice en el Corán:

Y confiad en Allah si de verdad sois creyentes.

Corán 5:23

Me di cuenta de que no podía -y no puedo- saber de qué daño me puede estar protegiendo Allah (SWT). No puedo saber, en este momento, hacia qué me puede estar dirigiendo Allah. Todo lo que sé es la amargura de la desviación de la Guía y tengo que poner mi confianza en Allah, si me esfuerzo por ser una mu’min (creyente).

Después de pedirle a Allah que me guiara, solo podía pensar que Él sabe lo que me duele, pero el plan de Allah es perfecto y si tengo confianza en Allah como me ha pedido, todo saldrá mejor.

El Profeta dijo:

Estoy asombrado por el creyente. En verdad, Allah no decreta nada para el creyente excepto lo que es bueno para él.

Muslim

El conocimiento perfecto de Allah

Después de pedirle a Allah (SWT) que me guiara, solo podía pensar que Allah sabe lo que me duele, pero a veces la medicina es amarga. Él también lo sabe y está conmigo mientras lucho. Él está conmigo en los momentos en que me siento como una amalgama de dolor, pánico y lágrimas; y Él tiene un plan perfecto para lo que está al otro lado de esta inestabilidad, de esta agitación. Él es el máximo conocedor, Al-`Alim (el Omnisapiente).

Y Él es el Omnisciente, el Todopoderoso.

Corán 30:54

A medida que me centraba en el plan y el conocimiento perfectos de Allah, y volvía a estos pensamientos cada día, se comenzaron a convertir en ataduras más fuertes a tierra firme. Ser consciente y verdaderamente interiorizar, a medida que avanzo, no importa dónde esté y por lo que esté pasando, que Allah está conmigo en Su conocimiento y tiene un plan perfecto, se ha convertido en un gran consuelo para mí.

Reconozco y defiendo plenamente la búsqueda de medios médicos para una buena salud, incluida la buena salud mental. Para ellos se necesita atención médica, actividad física y conciencia espiritual. Pero creer en el plan y el conocimiento de Allah son algunas ayudas para mantener la estabilidad que yo y cualquiera podemos usar para hacer frente a la ansiedad y otras problemas de salud mental.

Traducido del inglés de los archivos de Discovering IslamBetween Anxiety and Trust in Allah

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