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Tips for Happy Marriage: 4. Heal Your Past Trauma

It often happens that in the same exact situation people have very different feelings. Or a word they heard causes one to feel anxious, another one angry while for others it is neutral.

It is very important that you take the time to notice and explore these emotional responses of yours. You need to have clear answers for why you feel suddenly angry, or sad, or frustrated at moments, because in a marriage oftentimes fight occurs because of the lack of this knowledge.

Your spouse’s word or action “hurt” you, you feel, when, in fact, what really happened is that those words or actions triggered a hidden memory or negative emotion in you that hurt you – thus anger and fight have erupted between you two. If you had been already aware….

In this video, sister Hana gives you some essential tips on how to explore these emotional trigger points of yours, and how you can maintain a healthy relationship with your emotions.   

The other parts of the video series:

Tips for Happy Marriage: 1. Why Do I Want to Get Married?

Tips for Happy Marriage: 2. Your Religiosity Is NOT Your Spouse’s Responsibility

Tips for Happy Marriage: 3. Building Financial Awareness

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